Counselling for Young People

What is Counselling?

Sometimes we all have problems that are worrying. Think of a confusing jigsaw when the pieces are difficult to match together. Talking about a problem in counselling is like sorting out all the pieces so we can begin to build a picture that makes more sense to us.

How does Counselling work?

It can be difficult to talk to people about things that are making us anxious. A counsellor is trained to listen to you very carefully; they will not judge you or tell you what to do. Having thoughts, feelings and worries listened to, clarified and understood by someone who is not directly involved can be hugely beneficial. Often, people find working with a counsellor in a confidential setting and at a regular time enables them to build a trusting relationship within which to understand themselves better, to gain insight and self-awareness, and to develop new strategies for living. Sometimes just ‘talking things through’ can help people to feel clearer or more confident about something they had in mind already. It’s a bit like working in a team; together you can find the best way forward for you.

Counselling is about helping you to work things out for yourself, making decisions and choices and helping you to look at things differently.

What kinds of things do people talk about in Counselling?

Whatever matters to them. Whatever is worrying for them. It could be about lots of different things. Here are some examples of problems and some thoughts and feelings that you may have.

  • I feel angry but I don’t know why – I’m worried because I keep feeling like I want to lash out at people. I can’t control myself.
  • I am anxious a lot of the time and stuff keeps going round and round in my head – I’m tired of worrying about friends/going out/what I look like/whether I am good enough.
  • Death of someone special – I miss this person so much. I’ll never get through this. Nobody understands how bad I’m feeling.
  • Feelings about myself – Sometimes I don’t understand how I feel or why I feel like I do. I just don’t feel right.
  • Health issues – I am worried about my health. I am struggling to cope with my health issues.

Here are some comments made by people after counselling

  • ‘”Having counselling has helped me a lot. I have been able to discuss my problems instead of locking them away, which is what I used to do. It has been a very big help to me.”
  • “It helped me to understand my problems and to overcome them.”
  • “It really helped me to talk more to my family and people around me.”
  • “The counselling has helped me to feel confident in myself.”

Our Counsellor

Vanessa Brown, BA (Hons), Dip. Couns, MBACP

Tel: 07470 248611   Email:   Website link

So how will you know if counselling is right for you?

Coming to counselling can feel like a very big step and it takes courage. You may be unsure about it. The best way to decide is to find out more about it. My website will give you more information about what counselling is and how it can help, and I am very happy to have a free phone conversation with you and answer any questions you may have; alternatively, your are welcome to send an email.

Stamford Mental Health Forum

Stamford Mental Health Forum was created in 2015 to raise awareness of mental health issues in Stamford, Lincolnshire and to improve the lives of those affected.  They hold regular meetings with specialist speakers are open to all who are interested – from service users, carers, professionals and anyone to whom this important issue resonates.  You can find out more about the forum and how it could help you and yours at


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Link to BACP website